|—||Anonymous (via thatslove)|
Chivalry isn’t dead…
…at least in our house it isn’t.
We have fallen into traditional roles in our relationship (with a few exceptions). I fit the masculine role and Leigh, the feminine:
I open doors for her. Walk on the outside of the street. If we’re walking together, and there’s an unsavory character on her side, I put myself between them. My side of the bed is closer to the door. I take out the trash, fix things around the house, maintain the cars, and carry the heavy groceries. I do most of the driving if we’re together and I’m responsible for our long-term financial planning. In other words, all things considered “manly”.
Leigh reciprocates with “feminine” chivalry…
She takes care of the day-to-day finances, dishes, decorating, most of the cooking (except on the grill, that’s “Papi’s Domain” *grin*), ALL of the laundry, including folding, matching socks, & ironing. (My only task is putting my clothes away, and I’m so lazy about it… drives her mad, lol!) She makes most of the travel arrangements when we go out of town, etc. You get the picture…
Of course, there are occasions when the roles are reversed or when one of us takes up the slack if the other is sick or exhausted or life just throws us a curve ball.
When it comes to emotional support, we equally provide comfort, encouragement, security, laughter, a massage, “space”, etc. Whatever is needed at the time.
We debated on who goes down stairs or an escalator first. She convinced me that I go then she follows. That way, if she trips, I can either catch her or brake her fall.
Needless to say, I now go first down stairs and escalators, lol!
Some women abhor having defining roles in their relationships. But we embrace them because a lot of stress in our daily lives is eliminated.
And the best part is that she doesn’t have to ask me to do these things nor do I have to ask her. Our roles come naturally to each of us. We each have a servant’s heart and enjoy caring for one another. We also show genuine appreciation for each other. A sincere “thank you” is as powerful a sentiment as the most heart-felt “I love you”.
Such chivalry and reciprocity consistently go hand-in-hand within our respective roles, and our union is that much sweeter because of them.
|—||Ella Wheeler Wilcox|